Posted by annierose on February 16, 2006, at 6:26:04
In reply to Re: I need some help -- trigger, posted by Daisym on February 15, 2006, at 23:23:03
He wants you to stop therapy because he is selfish. He doesn't want you to change. He liked the Daisy that didn't speak up, that didn't set boundaries. But that doesn't make you feel better. That's not the Daisy that you are becoming.
You are changing. You are upsetting the delicate balance marriage maintains. But that is okay. People should grow and develop. And our love and support for them should always be there.
Try not to use sex as a currency. Use words. Tell him that therapy is not going to stop anytime soon. Tell him "It is very important to me. I know you can't understand why but that is okay. It's okay for me. I need this right now. And I need you to be supportive, just as I am supportive of you and your needs."