Posted by frida on January 29, 2006, at 19:37:52
In reply to Re: Maybe I don't feel better » frida, posted by Dinah on January 29, 2006, at 19:06:32
I understand how hard it is for you right now after everything that has happened.
My sense of safety would be shaken too.
It's hard sometimes to remember the things that make us feel they do care..and when something happens, it's easy to feel everything is fragile. But I have faith that you and your T will work this out and you'll feel safe again. He does care about you and to me, he's always shown that he wants to make this work. 10 years or so are a long time. You've built a lot. Nothing can make that go away...
I often tell that to myself when I have doubts about my T. SOmetimes I doubt if she does care and a part of me feels certain she doesn't, esp now that i haven't seen her in so long, but I tell myself that nothing can destroy or make our "history" go away. It's a long time shared. She always tells me the caring and love is different, but it doesn't mean it's less. I do feel loved by her.
I am sorry you can't feel that right now with your T.
I'm certain he does care, and I hope you can feel safer with him soon...
You've been through a lot lately with him, and you are still trying to work it out together..that is important and tells me that both are committed to the relationship...
wishing you safety with him,
ps.and of course you're not being stupid. If my sense of safety were shaken that way I would be feeling the same way..