Posted by bent on January 3, 2006, at 14:03:14
In reply to Re: what to do with the pain » bent, posted by Dinah on January 3, 2006, at 12:27:18
I see what you mean. Like we are on the edge of something big. I have talked before about sorta grieving the loss of the mother I never had, but I had never really looked at my mom and thought ‘you will never be what I need – I must be what I need’ until a few weeks ago. That’s a scary thought for me. If I work on letting go of that longing for my mom, how do I let go of all the curiosity and assumptions that my T is a wonderful mother? I don’t even imagine that she the mother I want. I don’t want her to be my mother. I just wonder what kind of mother she is to her kids. But even tho I am not putting myself in the picture I guess I am still seeking out those qualities in her. Maybe that’s part of what hurts.
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