Posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2005, at 18:57:04
i have been thinking...
about trauma.
about the notion that if someone has experienced trauma... then they relive that over and over and over.they were victimised and they go on to elicit that same victimisation from new people in their life...
and i think maybe... i do that a little...
but sometimes... they were victimised and they go on to persecute in the way they were persecuted...
and i think maybe... i do that a lot...
i think...
i do that :-(
and i hurt the people i care about the most.
:-(
because i do get scared.
and it is kind of self defence...
only...
people probably need to protect themself from me really :-(which pains me so much :-(
and comes back to the truth in the 'i'm not fit for human company' idea...how are you supposed to stop with that???
i have heard...
abbreaction.
thats what that is supposed to be about.
if you can experience the initial trauma...
and work through that...
then it will stop the cycle being played out over and over indefinitely.does that really work do people think?
what i've read about it...
hard to say...
do things have to get worse in order to get better?
what if...
you relive it...
and can't find your way back out?
is that how...
you learn about the distinction between the present and the past?
cause they get all messed up and tangled together for me... and i can't tell where i am and what i'm responding / reacting to.
or...
does it just make people worse...
(like anna o...)
etc.
poster:alexandra_k
thread:593810
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20051229/msgs/593810.html