Posted by daisym on December 3, 2005, at 0:48:16
In reply to This is what I am going to tell him next, posted by happyflower on December 2, 2005, at 10:09:54
I think this is a healthy position to take. Perhaps you can practice with your therapist asking your husband for what you want or need. At least you might get a dialogue opened up. I have to tell you that I'm not good at this with my husband either. But slowly I've stood up for myself around a few things and it has helped. My therapist makes suggestions and gives me "permission" to have needs and wants and once in a great while he will be directive about something that is going on that he thinks is harmful to me. Usually he offers to write me a note about it, meaning he is taking a stand as MY therapist. Sometimes it does feel pushy. And yet, I'm not sure I would have made any changes without a push.
I know this is a really hard place to be. I hope it gets better soon.
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