Posted by Tamar on November 30, 2005, at 19:35:59
In reply to Unconscious Seduction - long, posted by daisym on November 30, 2005, at 0:50:26
Your posts are so good for me, Daisy. I feel I’m taking some kind of vicarious help from them.
I reckon sometimes there isn’t any particular reason why these feelings come back in force. Sometimes I read things here that ‘trigger’ feelings for me… but it’s usually in conjunction with other things (or maybe nothing at all). The story about the client in the restroom hearing her therapist on the phone is really scary. I suppose I can imagine a situation in which a therapist says something like that, not really meaning it. Any therapist who really means it probably shouldn’t be practising as a therapist.
As for feelings of love and lust for therapists: they *are* real and they’re not disrespectful or dangerous. They’re natural and healthy and important. Just my two cents.
I think I can understand why you might be worried about unconscious seduction. After all, it’s something that’s inevitably outside your control. But I think the term sounds scarier than it really is. If you were being unconsciously seductive you might feel that your behaviour in session wasn’t really ‘you’. But I really think your therapist would pick up on it and help you deal with it. I certainly don’t believe it would scare him off.
As for what it says about you: it might say any number of things. You might have a desire to rewrite history. You might want to find a way to experience a depth of pleasure that has been elusive up till now. You might simply want to feel beautiful. Or a number of other possibilities, none of which are shameful or bad.
I think it’s a good thing that your therapist is aware of how you might feel, and won’t fall into any traps. And I think it’s wonderful that you’re able to talk to him about all this stuff. I want to get my p*m-p*ms out for you…
Tamar
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