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Re: Thanks 10der. » orchid

Posted by 10derHeart on November 12, 2005, at 0:40:16

In reply to Thanks 10der. (nm) » 10derHeart, posted by orchid on November 12, 2005, at 0:16:42

oh, you're welcome. Just thought maybe to save you a little typing of the "facts" lots of us already know, for allison and maybe others reading.

(((orchid))) you poor thing. It must be so stressful. It seems like you are between a rock and a hard place, in a way, although you know ultimately you MUST protect yourself and your mental health, or else, the rest won't matter anyway.

But because it's a parent, it's so crazy-making. To resent and even hate at times, then knowing simultaneously you love and need them. I wish somehow your father would get help and/or admonishment from someone he respects and really listens to....a friend? brother? clergy? I just mean so there would be more pressure from another direction on him to stop this harmful behavior NOW. Not just poor you alone, having to suffer while you repeatedly "retrain" him to quit this.

How much (if anything) does your husband see or know about your dad touching you? I thought maybe I read your dad openly holds your hand (which could be fine if you always liked that type of touching and that's ALL the type there was happening...) Does he ever see this? And if so, does he say anything about how he views it? I can't help but think he could be your best ally, Orchid, because he loves you, and he IS your husband with every right...no...extra rights to demand this sick behavior stop...is there a way this could happen?

Stay strong in your focus on being kind to and protecting YOU - your dad will be FINE and none of this at all is your fault!!

I know it's very hard. Please keep posting.

 

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