Posted by Dinah on November 8, 2005, at 12:30:35
In reply to Re: How much, how soon?, posted by B2chica on November 8, 2005, at 12:11:23
I asked her what she thought. She said either way would work. That whether I gave her a laundry list at the first, or told her things as they came up, she could work with it.
So I decided to start with what parts of the list I could easily remember, and one tended to lead to the other. There weren't enough minutes in the session to mention all of my areas of sexual dysfunction (grin), so we concentrated on my experiences growing up and the distorted thinking that grew from them. I'm beginning to think that tying things together is her trademark, because by the end of the session it all felt quite coherent and connected. Not a random list at all. All about how the idea of growing up was connected with all sorts of icky stuff in my mind, and staying a child was appealing. And when she put it all together, it did seem connected.
At any rate, I still like her, and she didn't feel disapproving at all. In fact, she was quite impressed with all the work I've done so far, and how well I understand the issues involved. After only ten years of therapy. ;)
She also apparently remembered some of what I told her in our first conversations when I decided *not* to see her at that time for sex therapy, so she talked around a bit at what I was determined not to discuss. The only thing is that she thinks working on the sexual problems is connected to helping the little girl part of me grow up. And the little girl's gut response is "Nuh-uh, not going to happen my friend!" But without dislike or undue anger, which is pretty astonishing really. So T3 must have a good feel to her.
She was pretty much as I expected her to be. Well groomed but not in a trendy way - more classic, a bit older than I am. And she seems to take things with good humor and no shock or disapproval. A good sense of humor is a necessity in working with me. So in being unflappable. So I actually think I can work with her.
Thanks, Emily Elizabeth, B2, and Jenstar. I had a bad case of pre-therapy jitters today, momentarily afraid it would be a repeat of T2. Which would have put me off therapy that wasn't with T1 completely.
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