Posted by 10derHeart on November 6, 2005, at 14:52:47
In reply to Re: My feelings, posted by Miss Honeychurch on November 6, 2005, at 9:24:21
Thanks, Miss Honey....because I've been thinking the exact same thing and been too chicken to say so. (Perhaps I'd better go on a hunt for my backbone later :-( )
Sorry, happy, partly I've held back also becasue I've been trying and and trying to find some redeeming value, or alternate explanation, but from all you've written here, your T. has stretched boundaries too far already, IMO. Some aspect of your relationship has become all about him, it seems. That scares me.
I know you said neither of you would ever *do* anything while married or while he is your T. But....in a way, he has already done something just by the inappropriate questions, letting sessions go over into his lunch hour for chit-chat, and so forth. Sure it seems harmless and nice now, but...
I'm worried about you, and your family, happy. He has a LOT of extra power because you first met him as a T. This could end up hurting you badly. This could lead to not working on your marriage when actually, you wanted to (if DH comes around to that point, too, of course) because you may be so confused and stuck on powerful emotions for your T., which he's encouraging.
Do think hard, consider bluntly asking him about some of these words and actions, and be ever so careful. I only want the very best for you - you've worked hard for all the positive change and you deserve not to be messed with...
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