Posted by antigua on October 27, 2005, at 14:46:01
In reply to Re: csa trigger? » antigua, posted by Shortelise on October 26, 2005, at 21:58:15
This was and is really important and I thank you for bringing it up. There is the guy that attends a meeting I go to occassionally, and I really like him, in a brotherly way. He's a big guy and you know what? He never refuses my request for that hug. It's a totally safe hug.
But the hug I'm seeking, I learned today I will never get so I'm just going to have to get past it. Of course it's more complicated and so much more hurtful than that, but I'm glad I realized I wouldn't get the hug before I asked. It is protecting me, right now, from being very bad to myself. The rejection is crumbling, but at least I didn't suffer the humiliation of asking for it and being rejected.
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