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Re: My therapist hurt my feelings daisym

Posted by Poet on October 22, 2005, at 12:01:55

In reply to Re: My therapist hurt my feelings, posted by daisym on October 14, 2005, at 10:45:02

Daisy,

I would break my boundary rule and hold you. I can't be your mother. I can't be your therapist. I wish the people who you need physical hugs from could do it, you deserve hugs, not hurt feelings.

What I want from my mother is an apology for allowing her son to abuse me. Even if she didn't know about everything, she knew damn well his emotional abuse. She heard it. I think your needing hugs from your mother is like my needing an apology. It can't erase what happened, but maybe it would allow me to stop bashing myself and blaming myself.

My T keeps telling me I need to apologize to myself for blaming myself for the bad things. That my mother won't apologize to me because she will never recognize the harm her baby boy caused. My T says she can apologize to me for all the abuse and would have *gotten me out of there* but it's really me who who needs to forgive myself.

Daisy, hold yourself tight. Cross your arms over your solar plexis and hug yourself. I apologize to myself for blaming myself. I'll keep apologizing and try not to bash myself. Keep hugging yourself.

Poet

 

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