Posted by fairywings on October 18, 2005, at 11:44:51
In reply to Re: Anybody else have very little feelings? » fairywings, posted by rainbowbrite on October 18, 2005, at 11:28:44
> After losing someone to death it can often lead to this sort of thing. No matter what the relationship. I think it is like a spectrum, you could go more towards one end or more towards the other. Im not sure how to explain it but its like you avoid feeling to prevent that deep loss or confusion again. Or just death itself can cause an emotional detachment.
Thanks rain,
That makes a lot of sense. I guess it might have to do with my dad dying, my son being born, and my mom dying all of that in 8 months, just left me w/o much feelling left.
> And also I think its a defense mechanism, the less you feel, the less you can be hurt.I completely agree with you here. I've been hurt so much, I just don't want to feel anything anymore. the same reason I avoid ppl.
>and the anger IMO, Im referring to my experience might have to do with frustration with not being completely happy with what is going on in life and maybe the hurt is a result of not understanding what is going on inside yourself. I dont think it is coldness, but more protecting yourself.
I think you're right, the anger has to do with frustration, but for me, frustration over never dealing with all the hurt in the past, which is why I'm so upset about being told basically to forget it.
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> hope that helped a bit.Thanks rain, I appreciate your thoughts.
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