Posted by ButterflyHigh on September 27, 2005, at 1:24:08
ok, when I first started seeing this therapist, she said to me, "I want you to call me whenever you need to, give yourself permission to feel needy and vulnerable, I went through 12 years of therapy..." So, one day, no, honestly, it was two, I called her, and she said she counted 14 times. I was a mess, I was in a bad environment, and I was desperate - obviously lol I had never taken advantage of this before - ever.
So I let her have it, I posted on this once somewhere. I made amends, she accepted me back and was "pleased to hear from me". The interval between my decision to give her another try, a good friend said, "So, she changed the rules on you in the middle of the game - so to speak, that's not right - she is sick - find another therapist."
So I don't listen to what others said about her, I was in a sober living home and one night after seeing her, I told her I took extra medication that night to help me sleep, just like a doctor would tell me to do, if I called my doc. She ended up calling the paramedics b/c "I was slurring my words" - she wouldn't stop calling me that night. The house manager, the house mother, and my friend here were all saying "get rid of her". Well, for some reaon my gut was saying, take a break. Not sure how I ended up realizing I needed to think for myself. It seems like I made the right decision and am continuing seeing her - sometimes twice a week.
So, in conclusion, did she actually "change the rules in the middle of the game"? and if so, why do you think tht is? There's more, but this is the jist. I told her I felt she had some countertransference going on, she said nothing, but when I told her I think she needs to own her feelings, she acknowledged that and said, "I feel I am owning my feelings".
So, quiet when one statement, defending herself with the second.
What gives on this? She's a doll, just something that happened a few months ago and wanted to see if I could get input.
Thank you.
please any comments welcomed.Thanks for reading if you did.
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