Posted by gardenergirl on September 16, 2005, at 20:53:30
In reply to Confused about anger, posted by fallsfall on September 16, 2005, at 18:42:01
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> So how am I supposed to acknowledge my anger if I think my anger is wrong?Good question. But remember from DBT? Feelings are not to be judged. They are not right or wrong.
Are you angry? If you are, you are. If you aren't, you aren't.
If you are, it's up to you if you want to express it or not, to whom and how. There are certainly political reasons for you to be careful in expressing anger at work. It sounds like you need to figure out what exactly you are feeling, what's triggered it, and then what you want to do about it. You can express it without having to confront work folks. Or you can decide you NEED to confront work folks, and figure out the most effective way to do it.
Any chance your T might be projecting his own anger about the library's decision into the mix? I'm sure he cares about you and maybe feels upset that you are not getting credit, etc.
Just some thoughts...
gg
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