Posted by antigua on September 13, 2005, at 7:35:25
In reply to Admitting someone hurt you versus whining?, posted by Racer on September 11, 2005, at 22:08:02
I remember how hard it was for you last year and I'm sorry you're still carrying the hurt. They had no right to treat you that way at all.
I may not believe in people being "professional victims" but I sure know that I keep repeating certain patterns that bring me into situations where I am completely retraumatized. Yes, these people/organizations, etc. treat me very badly and it IS their fault, but I keep picking to be involved in those situations (unconsciously, usually). My Pdoc says while it's painful, it's very normal to do this. I keep trying for a different outcome and I'm devastated everytime it doesn't turn out differently. Instead, I'm a victim all over again. Eventually (??) I will come to terms with this.
I feel much better knowing that the issue is more complicated than me being a professional victim. Don't get me wrong--I still whine plenty.
Just my 2 cents,
antigua
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