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Re: Need and attachment » LauraBeane

Posted by Dinah on August 22, 2005, at 19:23:35

In reply to Re: Need and attachment, posted by LauraBeane on August 22, 2005, at 16:31:51

There is never a question of barging in. The more input there is, the more questions I have to ask myself (and him) and the more likely I am to be able to make headway. Babble has been a very valuable source for my therapy.

I do know I need to talk about it. In fact, I have brought it up the past two or three sessions, toward the end after chatting for the first half hour or so. My reasons seem woefully transparent to me. I think I'm trying to start an argument before I leave to give myself something to engage me between sessions. But I also hate to fight, so I ignore it for the first many minutes until I get frustrated with boredom.

I don't think he was aware of an impasse. My therapist is very laissez faire. I think he's content with the status quo, and if I want to come and chat twice a week he's ok with that. He never ever pushes me. If any pushing is done, it's from me. That actually annoys me some, but I think he developed that technique because I get stubborn when pushed. On the other hand, it often looks like indifference. I guess the poor guy can't win. So my therapist is relatively content with the impasse, or at least appears to be.

Even about this, he's adamant that we don't have to talk about it, and just idly adds that he generally thinks it's best to talk about things. And that not talking about it is likely to make the phenomenon worse. But he first tells me with alacrity that I don't have to discuss anything I don't want to. It's sort of annoying. I'd rather he pull it from me. Again, his methods resemble indifference, although I understand that he developed them because of my attitude.

 

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