Posted by All Done on August 15, 2005, at 23:46:40
In reply to Re: Silly question :-) » All Done, posted by 10derHeart on August 15, 2005, at 23:32:58
> Not silly at all, Laurie, and VERY important!
> Male or female T? I can't recall...Male. I call him Beefcake for short. ;)
> I suppose it depends on if you'd look forward to the reaction on his/her face, just to experience that, OR, if you're maybe worried about certain facial expressions and what they might mean to you....
>
> Me, I would tell. But I'm notoriously chicken about certain things having to do with hair, clothes, weight - all body stuff, really. My T. can look any way he wants (although he's quite the master at neutral expressions) about other, deep stuff, but if I imagine he's disapproving or freaked out by my appearance, I'll end up wanting to crawl under the couch and cry.....yes, I have issues that still need soooo much work!Yeah, I'm pretty much the same as you. My physical appearance and all feelings surrounding it have been one of the most difficult things for me to talk about in therapy. The only reason I'm hesitating to tell him beforehand is because then we'll have to "talk about it and what it means". Ick. I think it really just means that I'm tired of highlighting my hair and I like the way brown hair looks with blue eyes, but he might think that's not what it's about.
Beefcake's good at neutral, too. That said, it's going to be a pretty drastic change.
> PS - I think it's so cool you're doing that.
Thanks :).
> PPS - I'd really like to *see* Dr. Bob "holding his horses,"....lol :-) (uhhh..that's NOT supposed to sound nasty or anything...just silly!!! I swear!!!)
Mmm hmm...just silly...whatever you say, 10der. ;) ;)
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