Posted by orchid on August 5, 2005, at 16:57:23
In reply to Re: Sometimes a fly is not just a fly... (long) » orchid, posted by Daisym on August 5, 2005, at 16:49:25
Yeah - it is so very hard to accept that we can figure out everything intellectually, but emotionally, it always seems like a maze through which we cannot find a way out. And we feel like such little kids lost in a fair.
Maybe just remember, that the two parts of the brains are totally different. There is an overlap between the two, but our emotional brains age, and our logical brain's age never matches. And I think that is a way with many people. And that is why, very smart people end up making very stupid mistakes in their personal lives, why people fall in love with the wrong persons all the time, why abused kids keep wanting to be with abusive men. All these things - our logical mind has very very little control over. These emotions, need to be accessed with different kind of tools and different reasoning, and trying to tell that part with our logical mind to "behave" never works !!
Maybe once you accept that, this kind of struggle would lessen for you - and you would perhaps be able to operate at different age states with the different parts and wouldn't feel the need to be at a consistent age state. Maybe you would come to accept that you really are both a 10 year old kid, and a "your current age now" women. And that might make you comfortable.
poster:orchid
thread:537718
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20050801/msgs/537960.html