Posted by rs on July 31, 2005, at 19:56:17
In reply to Re: Feelings for therapist and terminating, posted by rabidreader on July 31, 2005, at 19:23:06
I do not post often but read often. I have been reading your post and if ok will share somethings with you.
I lost my T about 6 years ago due to him movng out of state. And yes it did hurt very much. He wanted to set me up with another T but totally was against it. I am not sure how I got over it. Took a long time but did it. There was to be no contact what so ever. I could not accept that or understand it. Seeing this person weekly for about 5 years then all of a sudden gone. Like he died. Took a few years before I started therapy again. Which was a mistake by not having old T set me up with someone. By the time I started therapy again it was due to hitting bottom in many ways and being in much pain and confusion from issues dealing with. Once stared T again took a long time to trust but you know this person is better in many ways. I am going to be honest and say at times talk about old T and will cry. I have phoned him and he has called back. He has not forgotten me and thinks of me often. He says I can call him. I think he is ok with with because my now T knows I do and being in T.
I just wanted to share with you that I understand the pain you are in but over time it does get better. And please from experience please let your T set you up with someone. I think you will find it helpful.
Hang in there and folks here are great support.
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