Posted by Tamar on July 31, 2005, at 15:20:59
In reply to Not able to tell my T I liker her so much !!, posted by pinkeye on July 28, 2005, at 14:32:36
I can really understand it, Pinkeye. You went through so much with your ex-T. And I'm sure she understands that.
Do you feel a little bit warm and happy inside knowing that she feels a little emotional about your termination? I know that would help me get the words out.
And also, if you don't tell her, will you kick yourself over the next few weeks for your silence?
Are you a bit afraid of her response? It's true that therapists are not always forthcoming about their own feelings. I told my therapist in our final session that I would miss him. He suggested that clients sometimes want to know how their therapists feel about the termination and I said I did want to know. So he told me he'd enjoyed our work together and that he would miss it. It was good to hear. I can imagine your therapist telling you something similar.
I think the suggestion of writing a letter, or perhaps a thank you card, is a good one. It doesn't have to be elaborate. But I imagine you'll feel better if you tell her than if you keep silent about it.
(((((pinkeye)))))
When is your last session?
Tamar
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