Posted by daisym on July 30, 2005, at 1:28:20
In reply to Re: Talking about Sex (potential trigger) » daisym, posted by annierose on July 29, 2005, at 20:07:15
I'm glad she made you smile...nice puns! (sorry)
It sounds like a good start for you. I think the fantasy part is the easy part because it is make believe, it is the real feelings I get embarressed about. I think I said, "I sometimes wonder if I just shifted a little left or moved a little right, if it would feel better." And he said, well, why don't you try that and then "we" would know. UMMMM....NOOO...then *I* would know. I knew what he meant but still...
It does sound like you are having great sessions. Was she surprised that you brought up sex? I must say that I would have thought it would be easier to talk about this with a woman, but perhaps it is just hard in general. (OK, again, no pun intended.) To me it feels a little like betraying some private part of my husband...making him look bad and all that. It is very complicated with us and a lot of the discussion has to be separated from the abuse stuff and the current issues which aren't pretty either.
Of course, I know that this feeling is yet again connected to the prohibition against "telling." It gets in the way a lot.
I'm proud of you. You were brave today!
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