Posted by daisym on July 28, 2005, at 23:55:02
In reply to Re: Lott, Obvious question, posted by deborah anne lott on July 28, 2005, at 20:38:46
I think the idea of transference and boundaries should apply to a lot more professions than therapy, so I sometimes wish the title of your book was a little different. I work with home visitors who work with disabled children 0-3 once per week until they are too old for our program. The attachment parents form is very strong and the loss of your home visitor when your child goes to school is painful. We work a lot with our staff to keep their stuff out of the homes, to minimize personal sharing, but the setting is so very intimate. Maybe we should have you be a guest speaker at a conference! :)
I *think* I have a very good therapist (doesn't everyone think they do?!) -- and we are working on some very hard, very old csa issues. He is psycho-dynamic, almost analytical in his approach. And very open to hearing about my attachment. A friend who is a therapist said that he either 1)understands your issues from personal experience or 2) had a painful therapy himself and has never forgotten it. I asked her why there couldn't be 3) he had a great therapy experience and learned from it...she said hmmmm...hadn't thought of that. I guess therapy isn't a strength based endeavor.
It was also her opinion that therapists sometimes have their natural empathy trained out due to fear and malpractice potential. How sad is that? I know my therapists has said more than once how much he dislikes what managed care does to people. They know they need more therapy, he knows they need it but the insurance company says, "no." It shouldn't be so hard to get help.
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