Posted by rainbowbrite on June 26, 2005, at 15:24:00
In reply to Re: Im really messed up (might trigger) » rainbowbrite, posted by Jazzed on June 26, 2005, at 14:03:56
>Can you tell him that you need him to listen and take you seriously, and not joke around?
I have tried, i very stubborn and I really need to have people understand me, if I feel they arent I have to explain further...in those situations he'll cut meoff and say...why do you think I dont understand? So I explain and it goes no where! grrr Well maybe for that moment its ok but then the next time I have a problem same old same old.
> Oooo, this isn't good. No silly remarks when you're feeling bad, that is NOT helpful! Can you tell him that his comments aren't helpful, that it is difficult enough for you to tell him that you're not feeling well emotionally?
I have, I dont hold back tahts for sure, I think Ive even hurt his feelings before. It isnt helpful unless I am actually making a mountain out of a molehill BUT at times when I really need someone to calm me down and take me seriously it really IS NOT helpful.
> No, I don't agree. He should be able to listen to you, hear what it is that isn't right, and work with you. Doesn't matter what you did that makes you think his reaction is okay because "you started it". What do you mean by that anyway, what did you start?
I started the superficial relationship, he wasnt like this to begin with, it was all my joking around etc that got him going in the beginning. So maybe its HARD to read me? Thats a possibility, I think I maybe give off the wrong signs? I dont know but whatever I was doing last time was not working :-(
> Oooo, very bad. That's not at all funny if you think he might do that, even if you think it will never be an issue.
> Awhile ago, my meds made me feel suicidal. I knew it was the meds because I'm not suicidal. Anyway, when we were talking about what was going on, in a very quiet, sensitive, caring voice he said, "were you suicidal?" OMGosh, for him to actually verbalize it made me feel that he would do what it took make things right. I was fine by then, but it made me realize I could tell him anything about the way I felt. Of course, being a p-doc, and not a therapist, we moved on quickly, but at least he picked up on, and acknowledged my feelings without me having to say the S word myself.
I think maybe if I was serious all the time then he would be more inclined to respond to my distress differnetly, Im not sure...but thats the way I would predict he would react.
> I hope you can tell him how this is making you feel. Maybe print out your posts so he can read them, and maybe he'll get a clue.
I may do that, although I feel like I shouldnt have to, Im being crystal clear here it seems....well sort of, maybe Im a little confusing...