Posted by daisym on June 18, 2005, at 23:29:21
In reply to Warming the stone child, posted by Emily Elizabeth on June 18, 2005, at 22:07:56
I think we've all had feelings like this, not wanting to tell our therapists that we are "researching." I always wonder if he thinks I don't trust him when I do this.
But I've found that some of our best discussions come out of me saying, "I read such and such and we don't work together like that." Or I'll ask about stuff I do agree with.
I think as a therapist in training you would want to read and listen to things that are out there. It is likely that you will have clients who come across this stuff and it will keep you well informed. When I was teaching birthing classes, I read everything I could find, but especially main-stream stuff because I knew the parents were reading it. It helped me be prepared for their questions or concerns.
I doubt your therapist will see it as "cheating on her" but she might want to talk about what you are searching for that you aren't getting in therapy. I know when I start reading a lot, there is usually something coming up that I don't understand "yet" --- I have a hard time bringing things out that I don't have a handle on. Too many unknowns make me nervous.
There is a thread on books about this tape. It seems to touch a lot of people. Loss and disappointments are just part of the human condition. You don't have to have had a traumatic event in your life to be "entitled" to sad feelings.
I'd talk to your therapist about both the tape and what it brought up for you with regards to her. Sounds important.
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