Posted by gardenergirl on June 16, 2005, at 22:36:51
In reply to Re: T today - hurt and angry - may trigger » Shortelise, posted by littleone on June 16, 2005, at 21:44:18
ShortE,
I'm so sorry you had such a bad session and that you are hurting right now. Termination is really really hard, and of course it would be painful when you've been working with him so long. I absolutely agree with Pegasus, that the process of termination is **talking** about all the feelings termination stirs up. That's why what I learned in grad school is that termination can take a very long time in long term therapies. I was taught you have to give it enough weight and attention, perhaps even more so than the rest of therapy. The goal is for termination to feel "right" and "okay" with both parties.I would hate to think that anyone is being taught to bring out anger as a way to terminate. That may be his own stuff leaking in. It may also be some of your stuff coming out, which is perfectly natural and **supposed** to happen, but for some reason he's not picking it up to work on it with you.
(((((((ShortElise)))))))
Keep talking about it if you can, whether it's hear, to your hubby or someone else you trust to support, or maybe even your T. I'm hoping he's concerned about it after you walked out, and he will be open to hearing how you feel.
gg
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