Posted by Jazzed on May 25, 2005, at 22:35:22
In reply to Re: Help me get closure with my ex - T? » Jazzed, posted by pinkeye on May 25, 2005, at 16:57:19
> Actually what you have said really struck me.
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> And I think I am going to put an end to everything right now. No more digging deeper and no more trying to heal emotionally and all that. I have done enough of it. And I am not going to do it anymore. No more of all this transference talk and all this different child states and emotions and all that. IT is all too messy - doesn't lead you anywhere, it just makes you ruminate more and more and more.. it spoils your functioning in job, it spoils your mood. I don't know why I didn't see it before. And I don't like therapy at all. I hate it.
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> I am going to start terminating with my current T also. I don't need therapy anymore.Oh, Pinkeye, I feel so bad! I never ever meant to infer that you shouldn't do therapy. I think that therapy can be very positive, and sometimes we have to go through the muddy water to get to the sandy beach on the other side. I think you have been through so much, and I'm not sure what happened with you and your exT, but whatever it was, it obviously hurt you very deeply. I think we need to work through these things. It's like falling in love, and then breaking up. It's very messy, and very hurtful, but there's hope that eventually we'll feel better. Unfortunately the way I see it, is that you had that intimate relationship with your T, it broke off, but not only do you have to deal with that, but all the other pain in your life.
I'm so sorry if I made it sound as though you should just sweep it under the carpet, NO, no, no! Find a T who can really help you, and if it's not this one, find another!
Jazz
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