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Re: Another pity part for me » daisym

Posted by Dinah on May 14, 2005, at 8:34:12

In reply to Another pity part for me, posted by daisym on May 13, 2005, at 23:02:33

Oh, Daisy. I'm sorry. Being the boss is much harder than not being a boss, I think. I know you know you're doing your best, but it still hurts I'm sure.

If it helps any, my therapist says a relationship can't be very deep if you never let anger in the room. That anger is one of the paths to intimacy. That pretending you aren't angry or trying to stifle the anger is more of a relationship impediment than anger ever is. Not that he's in favor of indiscriminate shedding of anger, with no regard for the other person. But he thinks healthy expressions of anger are good.

It would be reasonable enough for you to be angry with anyone you perceive to be making your life more difficult than it already is. And that could include your therapist. Maybe the blockage isn't your anger so much as your fear of expressing it.

I sometimes do visualizations for that. I imagine myself, or a part of myself, wherever it needs to be confronting whoever it needs to confront and say to myself something like "I'm really angry right now because..." then sit back and listen to myself.

You've got more than enough reasons to be angry right now. Maybe that's what therapy needs to be for a while.

 

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