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Re: termination pain easing » Shortelise

Posted by Tamar on May 3, 2005, at 16:01:18

In reply to termination pain easing, posted by Shortelise on May 3, 2005, at 11:38:14

> But back to the T, termination, titration, etc., I feel ok about it. If I talk about it, I want to cry, so I don't talk about it. And I think after I see him the next time I'll be really sad again.

It’s definitely a painful time, no doubt about it. Sending you lots of hugs.

> Maybe what I fear the most is that last goodbye. I think I'll have to cancel that appointment. Yup, there are the tears starting.

About a month before my last ever appointment I wrote down everything I was expecting to feel before, during, and after that last appointment. I was right about some of my predictions, but I was wrong in some ways too. I found it useful to go back and read over what I’d written, because I think in the end I felt better than I’d expected. And I think that’s because my T and I talked at length about how I felt about termination (and how he felt about my therapy ending) and that helped a lot.

> And I still need to understand what he meant that things will be different if I have to go back to see him. I am afraid he means he'll no longer be my safe place. That really makes the tears come.

Ask him. I think he’d still be your safe place; you might not feel quite as attached though. But if you talk to him about it he should be able to reassure you.

(((((ShortE)))))

Tamar



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