Posted by Tamar on April 28, 2005, at 15:59:32
In reply to Re: What does it mean ..., posted by annierose on April 28, 2005, at 14:38:22
Well, I said that I have fantasies of rescuing my T, so I can explain what it means for me.
For me, fantasies about rescuing my T have a number of different facets. In one respect, it’s a way of imagining rescuing myself. I have imagined my T in scenarios that are similar to my own past traumas. My fantasy of rescuing him indicated to me that I wished I could have found my own way out. Also, my fantasies were an expression of my desire to imagine that my T knew exactly what I was going through. And moreover, my fantasies allowed me to imagine that I was as important to him as he was to me: my rescuing him restored the emotional balance between us (but only in fantasy of course). Does that make sense?
I needed to work through these thoughts and feelings – and even though I’m no longer in therapy, I’m still working through it.
Tamar
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