Posted by partlycloudy on April 26, 2005, at 9:09:37
In reply to Re: Why have I become triggery lately? » partlycloudy, posted by fallsfall on April 26, 2005, at 8:29:17
> So you can "make" yourself be more assertive, but if you can understand why you *don't want* to be more assertive, then you can address that reason - and you won't have to *force* yourself to be assertive. You will no longer have a reason *not* to be assertive. It is really hard to get to those protected, buried reasons. But life is a lot easier if you can get them out of the way.
> Good luck, PC.
Thanks! I already know why I am not comfortable being assertive - because I am terrified of conflict; terrified that I'll be found out to be a know-nothing poseur; to be quiet and subservient means that I can stay hidden and (safe) (don't cause waves) (must'nt complain or cry, nobody wants to see a sour puss).
My mom raised me this way.