Posted by Dinah on April 22, 2005, at 19:56:00
In reply to Poll- How many T's offers physical comfort?, posted by happyflower on April 22, 2005, at 16:11:52
If I need comfort or contact or wish to offer comfort, I hold out my hand for a handshake.
I've gotten a handful of hand clasped on the upper arm as I leave over ten years. And one double arm clasp.
He said recently that sometimes he wants to give me a hug, but my formidable personal boundaries stop him. :) I don't know if he really means that or if he's just trying to make the relationship feel less unequal.
Any physical contact really doesn't seem to mean all that much to me. It's almost undetectible even when it's going on.