Posted by PM80 on April 22, 2005, at 9:27:54
In reply to Re: Stressed so much, posted by sunny10 on April 22, 2005, at 8:10:22
It is not fair for him to expect/insist that yougo along with these plans when you clearly do not want to. If his father is sick, he can see him alone or live with your compromise of 6mo in each place. And living with the inlaws - is he nuts!?! If you do decide to go with him and live there, could you insist that the two of you live separate from his parents? It sounds like this is give-give-give on your part, and you are getting NOTHING from him. He needs to realize that you are person and have needs too. Your marriage will not work if you are miserable and forced to live with meddling in-laws(even though they are good people). You could explain that you like his parents, but you simply need your space. You are allowed to set boundaries in your life. Boundaries are healthy. His understanding in past situations are not part of the equation now. You have to live with these new decisions for a long time, maybe the rest of your life. You can stand up and fight for yourself - it is not wrong. You are entitled to a say in your life.
Yes, it is soooo hard sometimes. I'm sorry that you have to go through all this.