Posted by pinkeye on April 8, 2005, at 20:22:19
In reply to Re: Recipe for disaster? long, posted by daisym on April 8, 2005, at 20:02:29
hmm.. I understand what you are staying.. as long as the dependancy remains platonic, I can agree with you. But when you develop sexual fantasies and attractions and the dependancy is still there, I think that turns out to be quite painful.. You are confused, never sure of what the other person thinks of you, whether they think of you as a nuisance, or you are interfering in their lives, and whether to allow them to interfere in your marital relationships, and if you want to prevent it, but not being abel to pretend it.. all sorts of complications. And the therapist is most likely not going to develop any of these feelings towards you, becuase you are much more vulnerable, and they will be more indifferent than you, and it hurts and feels like a rejection..
See my point? If it is just fatherly attachment or non sexaul attachment, I don't see too much of a problem. But in many cases, it turns into a deep sexual attachment and trust, and it leads to lot of pain.
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