Posted by pinkeye on April 5, 2005, at 19:39:28
In reply to Re: thank you all, posted by shrinking violet on April 5, 2005, at 19:29:11
Hi SV,
I didn't question your therapist's motives. I am pretty sure she intended well for you - as far as I can see, I can never imagine a therapist wanting to use his/her power to manipulate a client. I firmly believe almost 99 % of therapists come to therapy because they care and want to help.But I do think your therapist is incompetent. While she might want to do what is good for you, she ends up hurting you, and that is what I meant when I said your therapist is not a great one.
It wasn't bad of her to give your cat a toy.. but she could have had a little bit of wisdom and foresight to see what it would cause you to believe about her - that she is a personal friend, that she cares very much for you, that she will be there for you. And she should have known when she extends herself beyond the limits to be there for a patient like that, it is normal on the patients part to have even more expectations on her.. and that she should be willing to see it all the way through - till the point you are recovered completely. If she was not willing or capable off to go all the way through and is going to drop off in the middle, then trying to extend herself and then pulling back is only going to hurt you. In other words, don't make a promise (explicitly or not) which you cannot keep. By giving your cat a toy, I think she made a huge huge promise to you that she will be there for you, and she is not keeping it now.
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