Posted by fallsfall on March 15, 2005, at 15:07:25
In reply to Re: More money stuff :( » fallsfall, posted by All Done on March 15, 2005, at 12:34:48
I did have the difficult discussions with my therapist. There has only been one topic that was harder than this one (that was when I told him I was doing the thing that caused my first therapy relationship to rupture). I will say, though, that the discussion was productive.
Money is a touchy subject for me. It is also an important subject for him. So the emotional content was high. I knew more about the insurance stuff than he did, so I ended up in a role where I was "teaching" him - and that ended up being an eyeopening experience.
We got through it because we really did want the same things - we wanted to continue therapy (at the pace we have been), and we both wanted him to make enough money to continue being a therapist, and we didn't want me to wind up in financial trouble. Since we had the same goals (though different views on those goals) we were able to come to a resolution that works for both of us.
It was excrutiating - I was terrified that I would piss him off and he would retaliate. But I knew that he cared - and I think that took us through the worst of it. It was awful, but I'm glad we did it.
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