Posted by annierose on March 13, 2005, at 13:29:08
In reply to A question of protocol, posted by Dinah on March 13, 2005, at 11:47:18
Dianh -
I've been in a similar situation. My 11 year old daughter sees a T. She has issues w/anger and the feelings surrounding being angry (what does that mean, what should I do with my feelings, does it mean I'm unloveable??, etc). Anyway, my husband is a GIANT piece of that puzzle. My husband and I meet with her therapist every other month, and he couldn't make one session. So I went anyway, and gave a fuller picture of our home life to the therapist.She told me that she was glad we had the time alone together, that my information told a bigger story. And it was helpful to my husband indirectly. The next time we met, (this T is extremely gifted in talking to adults w/out making them feel defensive) she spoke to my husband in such a way that I saw immediate change in the way he spoke to our daughter. Now, he still needs reminding ("you can talk to her without being angry or yelling ....") but I'm glad I went. I told my husband I went, but not that I spoke mostly about our relationship and his relationship to our daughter (as I see it).
So ... I would call her. It's important.
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