Posted by Dinah on February 27, 2005, at 0:30:06
In reply to More Freud stuff ...and new insight ***trigger****, posted by gardenergirl on February 26, 2005, at 23:54:10
Yes indeed. Good for you! I always close my eyes. :)
Yes, I think disclosure generally deepens our feelings of attachment, especially if it is well received.
I usually think that one of the reasons I gain weight is so that I will look unappealing to my husband, but I'm not sure if that's a good assumption or not given that my husband truly doesn't seem to find me less attractive now than when I was thinner. So I'm not sure if it's really an understanding of my own behavior, or an absorption of standard reasoning for weight gain I've heard on Oprah or Donahue. I think it may be more that I want to look unappealing to everyone, for various and sundry reasons. But that's me.
You have reason and more to link aggression and sex. Even I, who have no history, see sex... well, you know. There's physiology that makes that view reasonable.
Was your father religious? My mother's family all felt that way about girls piercing their ears. It's in the bible or something.
But I do remember that when I got to be a certain age, Daddy wouldn't let me sit on his lap anymore. And somehow that felt icky. Like it shouldn't matter how old I got, he wasn't supposed to notice. Yet on the other hand, he and my mother let me walk around in totally inappropriate clothing in front of family and company, so maybe he hadn't noticed I was growing up.
Now how's this for a disjointed answer?
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