Posted by fallsfall on February 14, 2005, at 16:30:27
In reply to Why do you think it felt so good??, posted by Susan47 on February 14, 2005, at 14:28:54
This was in a session today (I see him 3/week).
Yes, it is a really good relationship right now. It hasn't always been this way. We spent about 6 months (at 3/week) when I was convinced that he didn't understand me at all. But going through that process seems to have been very important. It is hard really to know if I have different expectations, or if he *is* understanding me better, or both (probably both). But I know that the agony of that time was worth it because we are now able to make so much progress. And I expect it will get difficult again, and I'll slog through that, too. Therapy really isn't easy. That's why I am enjoying this time so much!
I think it felt good because when I was growing up I always had needs that noone bothered to recognize. They always had their own needs that kept their attention. So I had to fight to get my needs met - I had to *take* what I needed. But with him, today, he didn't have competing needs, so he was able to attend to me. And I didn't have to fight to get my needs met. *That* feels good.