Posted by Daisym on February 12, 2005, at 13:24:35
In reply to Giving back to our therapists, posted by Pfinstegg on February 12, 2005, at 11:45:40
I'm glad you were able to say that outloud. What a gift for both of you.
We were talking about attachment a few weeks ago and my therapist compared it to "new" love -- the kind that needs to keep checking in with the other person to make sure they are real, still there and still interested. Not romantic, he said, but deep and important. I knew exactly what he meant. I shared with him the thread about therapist liking their clients too. I said it hadn't really come up for me, not that I was completely convinced I was "likeable". He said he thinks it is just so obvious that we have a repoire that I don't need to worry about that piece - like it is the sturdy foundation that everything else is built on.
Don't you just love moments like that? But doesn't it make you sad that it has taken so many years to allow yourself a relationship like this?