Posted by 10derHeart on February 10, 2005, at 23:17:09
In reply to Re: met with a new therapist » Shortelise, posted by lonelygal2 on February 10, 2005, at 22:29:50
I'm so happy you found a new T. I know you have really been through some difficult times getting even to this point. I think you are EXTREMELY brave to keep trying like this when I know it's been so very hard. I've had two T's tell me it's the people hurting, in need, scared, missing them, etc., that do call or email...those are the ones they feel best about. That they'll get better. That they worry a lot more about those who won't/can't/don't reach out for whatever kind or amount of help they want, because they will probably try to handle overwhelming stuff alone, and T's worry for them. Does that make sense?
You know, at certain points, I used to constantly think my old T. was also "too good to be true." So I really, really understand that part of your post. This was about excessive emails from me (and it was a lot), but it's much the same. So I tested him, and tested him, and was all over the place emotionally, and he still stayed steady, kind, accepting and there for me. Who says you haven't also found someone like that? They are out there.
Please do try to listen to ShortE. She's really right. A T. expects this kind of neediness from some clients. If you've already called and left messages, that means you can give in, and overcome your fear of being too much. I think her telling you what she did about calling is a wonderful sign.
You are going to do okay, and you are not too much for a good T. or for Babble. keep us posted. hugs...10derheart