Posted by pinkeye on February 3, 2005, at 21:08:04
In reply to Re: very tired and down » pinkeye, posted by gardenergirl on February 3, 2005, at 20:51:45
Thanks gg. It is very very sad isn't it? I don't know how you do it - reach out and know everything about a person and then just let that person go. Even if you don't like 99 % of your patients, you might still like 1 % very much don't you? It must be awfully hard being a T. Atleast I have one person whom I have to let go - you guys have so many persons who you have to constantly let go. I would never have gotten into a profession which requires so much emotional strain for me.
For me also it is extremely hard. I have never been this close to anyone in life and it seems so damn stupid that the only reason you got so close is to be able to let go at somepoint. I would never have gotten into it in the first place if I knew it would end up being so hard. If I had a choice, I would have chosen some 50 something, very ugly looking therapist - so I wouldn't have had any difficulty in letting go. A capable one definitely, but someone I would never even dream of hanging out with after that. Anyway, once you make a mistake you realize it - now I chose a woman in her 45 s to 50. Glad that I chose this way.
> There is one former client who emails me now and then. I was a bit tentative at first, but now it seems to be back and forth in a friendly manner that seems appropriate. I also invited someone I had to terminate with recently due to insurance issues to email me an update down the road, if she wished. It's nice to hear from former clients, but I do get a bit nervous that contact might keep some aspect of the therapeutic relationship alive in a way that might not be healthy.
> It is sad, though, when the relationship ends. On both sides. My T recently said something about how engaging in a therapeutic relationship requires sacrificing any other potential relationship...again on both sides. I was very touched when he said that to me.