Posted by daisym on February 2, 2005, at 1:04:04
In reply to T's wording keeps distance, posted by Speaker on February 1, 2005, at 22:12:47
I think you should bring it up. He probably doesn't even realize how it comes off to you. I think we all develop ways of phrasing things and we stop "hearing" ourselves.
It seems to me that it is standard for therapists to want us to initiate contact -- leave messages or arrange calls or ask for extra sessions. I guess it is part of recognizing what we need and asking for it, taking responsibility for our therapy.
I think the phrase "I'd be willing" is meant to be nuetral -- not encouraging you nor discouraging you. He probably doesn't want to send the wrong message but wants you to know calling is an option.
I think you should listen to your heart. He wouldn't have brought it up as an option if he thought it was a bad idea, or if he truly didn't want to make the effort. But I would still talk to him about the wording and tell him what a hard time you have with it.
This is all really hard, isn't it? I wish I could make it easier for you.