Psycho-Babble Psychology | about psychological treatments | Framed
This thread | Show all | Post follow-up | Start new thread | List of forums | Search | FAQ

Re: T's wording keeps distance

Posted by Dinah on February 2, 2005, at 0:51:35

In reply to T's wording keeps distance, posted by Speaker on February 1, 2005, at 22:12:47

Forgive me for not remembering the basics here. How long have you been seeing him? How is your general relationship?

I agree that laying it out as a When you... I feel... is probably the wisest choice. I often learn interesting things when I do that with my therapist.

He was guilty of similar behavior, BTW. I learned by asking that he had been taken advantage of in the past and was wary of being taken advantage of in the future. It wasn't really personal on his part. It was just his style. When he thought about it, he realized that I *wouldn't* do that, and in fact I haven't. He tries harder now, but he still falls short on occasions, and his phone contact often does as much harm as good, or more.

But he does care, in general.

That doesn't mean every therapist does, for whatever reasons of their own.

If you globally get the feeling that he doesn't care... Oh drat. I globally got that feeling too, and in the end we did hammer out a caring relationship. I am just no good at telling when something is better ditched than kept.




Post a new follow-up

Your message only Include above post

Notify the administrators

They will then review this post with the posting guidelines in mind.

To contact them about something other than this post, please use this form instead.


Start a new thread

Google www
Search options and examples
[amazon] for

This thread | Show all | Post follow-up | Start new thread | FAQ
Psycho-Babble Psychology | Framed

poster:Dinah thread:451388