Posted by mair on January 25, 2005, at 21:01:25
In reply to Re: :( » mair, posted by lonelygal2 on January 25, 2005, at 19:38:29
I'm sorry if I'm not as conversant as I should be with your history. Why are your ex-pdoc and ex-T saying they won't open any emails from you?
You have 2 obvious choices with regard to the recent-disaster therapist. You can terminate her in a formal way; take a breath, and start the process of finding another T as soon as possible, or you can meet with her one last time just to get some ideas about other Ts. You don't have to process all of this with her; you don't have to tell her again how much she hurt you or how angry you are. It's not that those are bad things to say; I just think I'd leave them for the next T. Giving you the name or names of some other Ts is the one thing this woman can actually do for you which might be of value. If you can detach yourself a bit from how hurt you are that she dumped you, I see no harm in using her in a way which might be of tangible benefit. I think the detachment will help you from the feeling that you're saying too much to her also.
Like it or not, your old support system of your ex-pdoc and ex-T is not there for you and your attempt at forming a new one hit an unfortunate roadblock. Given all that I understand the urge to just deal with things on your own. This would be fine if dealing with things on your own doesn't also mean withdrawing into yourself. It would for me, however, and I get the sense that it's your tendency now too.
Keep posting.
mair
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