Posted by Dinah on January 17, 2005, at 14:31:28
In reply to Re: Any impressions of my therapists boundaries? » Dinah, posted by fallsfall on January 17, 2005, at 13:11:42
I doubt he even had in mind the time he talked about his problems with dependent women. I think he's blocked that from his consciousness unless I bring it up.
The only specific example he gave was allowing me to take his photograph. But he implied there were other things. Like maybe saying that he cared about me or that I was special because I was his longest term client. I still think that doesn't count as a boundary violation because it's based on something as objective as length of service.
There are some back and forth discussions sometimes, and he discloses things from his childhood or very limited things from his current life. Nothing I would consider a boundary violation at all.
But I remember back to my early days with him, and how his boundaries were crazymaking strict. I guess that's how he thinks boundaries should be, and that by those standards he's bent a lot. I'd agree, actually. I just hope he sees his bending as appropriate and something to be proud of. And not "Egads, now I think of it, I've bent the boundaries a LOT for this client. I'd better re-establish them forthwith."
It still strikes me as funny, because in terms of therapists in general as represented on this board, he veers toward the firm boundary side. Especially considering he's not a psychoanalyst.
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