Posted by mair on January 2, 2005, at 10:39:55
In reply to Re: Idealizing » mair, posted by Dinah on January 2, 2005, at 9:34:56
Probably mostly the first which may say more about my own psychological profile than it does about Bob. People who idealize others tend to get hurt, and I think I have all kinds of armor for protecting myself from that kind of hurt.
But there are elements of the second and third also. On occasion, Bob has definitely disappointed me, which 1)justifies the use of the armor; and 2) has forced me to separate Bob from Babble - I've never reached the point where I felt that the harm of Babble (as maybe perpetrated by Bob) has outweighed the value of Babble. I mean this in an empirical way. I know this is not true in every individual instance, and certainly not true at all times maybe for any of us.
And while not always successful by any means, I do try to distance myself from those vicious admin wars. My observation is that many, if not most, of the people who leave Babble in anger, do so as a reaction to discussions which have occurred on that Board.
Mair
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