Posted by Aphrodite on December 29, 2004, at 13:34:19
In reply to Coexisting Ego States, posted by daisym on December 28, 2004, at 0:35:33
Mind if I jump in?
I must say that the striking thing about reading how your T's handle the various ego states is their rock solid support and demeanor. My T is very much "in to" part-self analogies and work, but he tends to be more erratic. Many of my ego states don't trust him because he doesn't react predictably. He reacts to them emotionally -- sometimes becoming very sad, sometimes he argues (he can REALLY have little flares of temper!), sometimes he says he is frightened for me.
On one hand, parts of me are glad he is so invested and so easily affected. The more adult parts of me worry that he is getting too involved and then I back off, shut up the young, wounded parts in order to take care of him when he seems particularly distressed.
We tend to be caught in a vicious cycle of his expertise in pulling out the young voices, me having a meltdown, he engaging in excessive worry and intervention, and then my "adults" getting in control again and taking care of him.
He says when I voice these concerns (and I believe he is right) that none of my wounded emotional side would trust him at all if he were not "real". He said I would never feel safe talking to a rock of gibraltar.
Still, I wonder . . .
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