Posted by gardenergirl on December 8, 2004, at 19:22:52
In reply to Blessed are those who go to the same sex therapist, posted by pinkeye on December 8, 2004, at 18:28:19
I agree that the therapy relationship can be a breeding ground for attraction, attachment, and strong feelings. However, I don't think this an absolute. If it plays out in any specific therapy relationship, then it must be what's needed to work out.
I see a male T, and I have benefitted a great deal from working with him. I can't say that I feel sexual attraction to him, and if I did encounter any sexual feelings in therapy, it most likely would be as a result of a paternal transference and probably Oedipal issues. Which would be different from the sexual feelings I have for, say, my husband.
I'm sorry for those who are hurt deeply by erotic transferences. I'm sure it's just awful and confusing. I do know it can be worked through, but it takes courage and patience on the part of both the T and the client. And good boundaries. Fortunately, I trust that my T has all of those, so I feel safe in working with him.
It sounds like you've had a difficult time?
gg
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