Posted by Tabitha on December 1, 2004, at 13:10:03
In reply to Re: About griping and grumbling... picture this..., posted by sunny10 on December 1, 2004, at 12:02:10
I had a lot of guilt about my "endless complaining" in therapy. My T said something I treasure, she just very matter-of-factly said "People need to talk about their pain." I remember that little bit of wisdom whenever I'm feeling guilty of my own complaining, or feeling impatient with others' complaining.
That said, I've noticed I've become more interested in solution-focused therapy lately, setting weekly goals and so forth. I can even respond to a little prodding from my T. This is after many many years of lots of just talking about my pain. If my T had tried to force a solution-oriented approach on me earlier, it just wouldn't have worked. People grow at their own pace. I'm a big believer that acceptance is more valuable than prodding and problem-solving during much of the journey. I believe I really needed all those years of 'griping and grumbling' and am grateful I had a wise therapist who knew how to work with me effectively during that period. Honestly I don't know how she does it.
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