Posted by daisym on November 4, 2004, at 13:31:31
In reply to Re: I think you are missing my point..., posted by Crazy_Charlie on November 4, 2004, at 5:10:22
<<<I wonder though what you think of the certain aspect in hinduistic thought: that theres a difference between psychological age and chronological age. With this it's meant that some people seem all their life to be more mature than their chronological age would suggest, and thereby their psychological age is higher than their chronological age, and so they show more wisdom. It can also be the other way around, that someone is younger psychologically than chronologically.
I want to jump in here because I think this is fascinating too. I was always told that I had a very mature out look, even at 10 years old. I think my psychological make up was completely influenced by the expectations of my parents. The wisdom I earned by these experiences was easily globalized, but I'm not convinced that this isn't a function of intellectualism...innate smarts that help you see which path to take or how to negotiate through someone else's emotions. As opposed to self-destructive behavior, which doesn't denote maturity. I would put forth now that my psychological age has deteriorated, that exploring the past in such a regressed way is effecting my overall ability to read people and situations and make mature decisions. Feels like emotional clouding.
Maybe your psychological maturity it is a nurture vs. nature argument:
My son, who is 13, has been an "old soul" his whole life. He is the kid who patted other babies when they cried when he was 2 and he is so empathic it is scary sometimes. He manages his feelings and yours in a very graceful way, honestly but with insight too. I'd love to take credit for this but given that I have two others who have been raised in the same house by the same parents, he is remarkably different. I will note that he seems to have traded resilency for this mature understanding of emotions and personal motives. He gets overwhelmed and overwrought. With him, we are teaching him to put up walls and protect himself.It is interesting to wonder who he might have been in a past life. He feels "female" if that makes any sense, while not being feminine at all.
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